Gender and Orientation on OkCupid

OkCupid was the first dating site to offer expanded gender and orientation options, way back in 2014. With 22 genders and 12 orientations to select from, we’re invested in making sure your profile reflects you. 

Not sure what all of these mean? Read below, or to see descriptions from people in their own words, go to OkCupid.com/identity

Genders (22)

Agender

Agender is an identity under the nonbinary and transgender umbrellas. Agender individuals find that they have no gender identity, although some define this more as having a gender identity that is neutral.
Nonbinary.org

Androgynous

Having the characteristics or nature of both male and female; neither specifically feminine nor masculine.
Merriam-Webster

Bigender

Bigender is a gender identity which can be literally translated as 'two genders' or 'double gender'. Bigender people experience exactly two gender identities, either simultaneously or varying between the two. These two gender identities could be male and female, but could also include non-binary identities.
Gender Wiki

Cis Man and Cis Woman

Cisgender and cissexual (often abbreviated to simply cis) describe related types of gender identity where individuals' experiences of their own gender match the sex they were assigned at birth. The term  cisgender is the opposite of the word transgender.
Wikipedia

Genderfluid

Genderfluid individuals have different gender identities at different times. A genderfluid individual's gender identity could be multiple genders at once and then switch to none at all, or move between single gender identities, or some other combination therein. 
Nonbinary Wiki

Genderqueer

an umbrella term that refers both to non-normative gender identity and gender expression. The label may also be used by individuals wishing to identify as holding queer or non-normative gender without being any more specific about the nature of their gender.As an umbrella term, Genderqueer has a similar scope to nonbinary, with most nonbinary-identifying individuals also considering themselves genderqueer. However, the terms have different historical scopes and connotations. The word genderqueer was used at least ten years before nonbinary.

Nonbinary Wiki

Gender Nonconforming

Behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match masculine and feminine gender norms.
Wikipedia

Hijra

In south Asian countries including India, Pakistan, and Bangladesh, the assigned male at birth and who have a feminine gender expression. This is a very ancient tradition of a nonbinary  gender role (often called "third gender"). 
Nonbinary Wiki

Intersex

“Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.
Intersex Society of North America

Man

An adult male human being.
Merriam-Webster

Non-binary

Nonbinary gender is an umbrella term covering any gender identity or expression that does not fit within the gender binary. The label may also be used by individuals wishing to identify as falling outside of the gender binary without being any more specific about the nature of their gender.
Nonbinary.org

Pangender

Pangender (and/or Omnigender) is a non-binary gender experience which refers to a wide multiplicity of genders that can (or not) tend to the infinite (meaning that this experience can go beyond the current knowledge of genders). This experience can be either simultaneously or over time. The greek prefix “pan” refers to “everything” or “all”, therefore, pangender could mean “all genders”, however the genders of pangender people are limited to their own life experience.  
Nonbinary.org

Transfeminine

Transfeminine individuals were assigned male at birth but align more closely with the female side of the gender spectrum. A transfeminine individual may identify with many aspects of femininity but not describe themselves as "a woman"
Wikipedia

Transgender

A person whose gender identity differs from the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth.
Merriam-Webster

Trans Man

A trans man (sometimes trans-man or transman) is a female-to-male (FTM or F2M) transgender person who was assigned female at birth (AFAB/DFAB) but has a male gender identity. The label of transgender man is not always interchangeable with that of transsexual man, although the two labels are often used in this way.
Wikipedia

Transmasculine

Transmasculine is a term used to describe those who were assigned female at birth, but identify as more male than female. Transmasculine is often used as a catch-all term for all people assigned female at birth who identify as masculine of center, including trans men, but the adoption of the term as an identity is a matter of personal preference.
Gender Wiki

Transsexual

A term referring to a person who does not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth and wishes, whether successful or not, to realign their gender and their sex through use of medical intervention.
Transgender vs. Transsexual

Trans Woman

A trans woman (sometimes trans-woman or transwoman) is a transgender person who was assigned male at birth but has a female gender identity. The label of transgender woman is not always interchangeable with that of transsexual woman, although the two labels are often used in this way.
Wikipedia

Two Spirit

Two Spirit is a culturally distinct gender that decribes Indigenous North Americans who fulfill one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations indigenous groups. The mixed gender roles encompassed by the term historically included wearing the clothing and performing the work associated with both men and women.
Gender Wiki

Woman

An adult female human being.
Merriam-Webster

Orientations (13)

Asexual

A person who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which is a choice, asexuality is a sexual orientation. Asexual people have the same emotional needs as everybody else and are just as capable of forming intimate relationships.
Asexuality.org

Bisexual

Sexually attracted not exclusively to people of one particular gender; attracted to both men and women.
Oxford Dictionaries

Demisexual

A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality.  
Asexuality.org

Gay

Homosexual; Sexually attracted to someone who is the same sex.  
Merriam-Webster

Homoflexible

Predominantly homosexual but open to an occasional heterosexual encounter  
Merriam-Webster: New Words & Slang

Heteroflexible

Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual sexual orientation that is considered to distinguish it from bisexuality.
Wikipedia

Lesbian

A woman who is sexually attracted to other women : A woman who is a homosexual.
Merriam-Webster

Pansexual

Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity.
Oxford Dictionaries

Queer

An umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who are not heterosexual or are not cisgender.
Wikipedia

Questioning

The questioning of one's gender, sexual identity, sexual orientation, or all three is a process of exploration by people who may be unsure, still exploring, and concerned about applying a social label to themselves for various reasons. The letter “Q” is sometimes added to the end of the acronym LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender); the “Q” can refer to either queer or questioning. Many LGBT student groups and literature include questioning in their literature; in the case of gay–straight alliance groups they do so in part so students are not compelled to label themselves or choose a sexual identity.
Wikipedia

Sapiosexual

One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature; behaviour of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use.
Collins Dictionary

Straight

Heterosexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between persons of opposite sex or gender. As a sexual orientation, heterosexuality is “an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions” to persons of the opposite sex; it “also refers to a person's sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions.”
Wikipedia



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