How to write a great introduction

First messages that say just "Hey" have an 84% chance of being ignored. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of easy tips so you can send a first message that stands out (in a good way).

Keep it to 40-90 Characters
You don’t have to pour your heart out in message #1. Just a few lines (shorter than a tweet) statistically puts you in the best spot for success.

Be Thoughtful
Just like you would with a potential date in real life, express genuine interest. Lead with a short message that has something to do with an interesting photo or detail you noticed in their profile. Mentioning something you have in common helps, too.

Don’t Be Too Familiar
People aren’t interested in being told how ‘sexy’ they are by a complete stranger and those types of messages aren’t likely to lead to a good first conversation, if they lead to one at all.

Mind Your Grammar
Based on OkCupid data, bad grammar is a turn off. We haven’t tested whether ironic misspellingz count, but trust us: complete, grammatically correct sentences make for better conversation starters.

In Summary: Date Like You Do In Real Life
Be polite, considerate, and gracious. Then click ‘send,’ and leave it up to the fates. 

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