Non Binary profile options
At OkCupid, we enthusiastically welcome people of all orientations and gender identities. We have 13 orientation options and 22 gender options available for our members to choose from. When OkCupid expanded the available gender and orientation options, we realized there was a larger conversation taking place. Because dictionary definitions aren’t always able to tell a story, we went to real people to add some color to this evolving language. Here are descriptions from those who claim these words for themselves.
There are three places on the site where you can choose who you are looking for, and how you'd like your profile to be shown. In this article, you'll see explanations of all three:
Your Profile Details - on the web
Your Profile Details - on the app
The Looking For part of your profile
Also in this article:
Your Profile Details on the web:
To access your profile details, visit your profile on OkCupid and click the edit pencil icon on the right next to your basic information. The first option is for your orientation. If you are straight, bisexual, or gay, you'll be able to choose that option from the drop-down menu. If you'd like to select any other orientation(s), select "more options".
Once you select options, you'll need to let us know which gender(s) you'd like to see in your Match Search results (not the gender you yourself identify with). This is because you can select multiple orientations (for example "straight" and "questioning" and "heteroflexible") which may not make it immediately clear who you'd like to see on OkCupid. The "I'm interested in" option is not shown to anyone publicly- this is background information that helps us know what kinds of people to show you around the site.
From this page, you can also edit your gender(s). From the gender dropdown, select Man, Woman, or More options.
If you select anything other than "Woman" or "Man", we'll ask you how you want to be included in searches. At the moment, you will need to opt into being included in searches for men or searches for women, even if you don't identify as either gender.
Advanced search options in Match Search will still allow matches to explicitly narrow results down to any possible gender(s) of interest, and your profile will always display your identity as you have selected.
Your Profile Details on the app:
From your profile, tap on the edit pencil icon under the Details section.
That will open the details page, from which you can change your orientation(s) and gender(s):
Tap on either pen icon to open the selection page:
To edit your orientation(s), tap on that option:
Make your selections, then tap continue. If you've selected any non-binary orientation(s), you'll then select who you're interested in (please see above in the desktop section for further information about these choices).
To change your listed gender(s), tap on that option:
If you select a non-binary gender, you'll then select whether you'd like to be included in searches for Men or Women (please see above in the desktop section for further information about these choices).
To publicly show who you're looking for, and to set who you'd like to see in DoubleTake you'll want to edit the "Looking For" part of your profile, by clicking on the edit pencil icon next to that section at the bottom of your profile on the app:
From there, make your selections:
Members with LGBTQIA+ profiles can choose pronouns to display on the profile. You can choose between he/him, she/her, they/them, or you can write in your own. You can read more about pronouns here.
If you're seeing your profile listed as straight when it shouldn't be, then you'll want to double-check the "Include me in searches for Men/Women" and the "I'm interested in Men/Women/Everyone" options. We don't want to make any assumptions about your orientation based just on the label(s) you chose, so you'll need to clarify further with us to let us know who you want to see and how you want to be seen.
It’s important to note that we do not moderate gender on profiles at all, even if it appears to you to be a mistake, because we don't want to make any assumptions about someone's identity. This is NOT a sufficient reason to report a profile to our moderation team, and any such reports will be dismissed.
Still have questions?
We're committed to making sure LGBTQIA+ members have a good experience. If you're having trouble figuring out how to set up your profile, please let us know and we'll be happy to help.
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