The art of conversation on OkCupid We think it's best when conversations are between people who are interested in each other. However, on OkCupid (unlike other apps) you have the opportunity to send an introduction to someone before they've liked you. And messaging on OkCupid is always free! Once you Like a profile, you have the opportunity to send an intro Once you've sent the intro, they will see your full profile and your introduction at the same time, whether they're seeing you in Discover or their Intros tab. This is a great way to pique their interest and help you match on what matters. If they reply to you or Like you back, you'll see the reply in your Conversations page and you can write to them again if you like! More on messaging: How to send an intro What to say in your intros